Solving Sexism the Chameleon’s Way

I was inspired by the insightful comments you all had on Monday’s post.   My company is considered small by Corporate America standards, so I’m not bombarded with big company BS and internal politics on a daily basis.  Regardless, I agree with most of your comments…sexism (as well as other “isms”) is still an ongoing battle in the workplace.

We have a saying at my office….

Don’t come to me with a problem.  Come with a problem and a suggested solution.

I like that saying and adopted it from (gasp) a bully of a man.  Regardless, it works to get collaboration going on problem-solving. 

So, what are we going to do about this battle of the sexes?  Here are my suggested solutions:

Solution #1.  Revenge!  Let’s put out a worldwide call to female executives.  From this point forward, they may only hire assistants with these qualifications…

Tie

My apologies to the guys…us girls needed needed a little visual pick-me-up.

Solution #2.  Throw in the Towel.  All the men can work, contribute 75% of their incomes into a new government-run program called “Feed and Pamper the Women” and all the ladies will sit back at the expensive spas, hire man-servants to clean our houses and watch our kids, and….errrr……no.  Next.

Solution #3.  Be a Chameleon.  Let’s face it. Men and women are different creatures.  Physically, the differences are obvious.  More importantly, the way we show ourselves to the world is different.  From early childhood, stereotypical ways of acting are reinforced in boys and girls. 

Girls – be polite, speak softly, don’t fight.

Boys – toughen up, get in the game, don’t cry.

When these stereotypical ways of projecting ourselves are brought into a competitive environment (workplace, politics, buying a car, negotiating a deal…whatever), who do you think is going to play that game better?

To be viewed with absolute equality in the workplace, I think women need to Chameleon and better adapt to the environmentWe need to project more confidence, speak louder, be more assertive, and act like leaders.  And while doing this, not completely check our femininity at the door.  Books

The Brown Paper Bag Girl expressed it well in her comment “…a significant aspect of equality is women believing and acting like they are equal. After all, you get what you put out there.”

Being chameleon-like doesn’t always come easy.  My bookshelf is filled with books like these…because we’re all in this together.

 

What other suggestions do you have to bring more equality to the sexes?

We’re moving on to a different topic on Monday.  Be sure to check back! 

If you liked this post, you may also like Lookism.

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9 responses to this post.

  1. Though I don’t go neck to neck with the men of the world in Corporate America, I am proud of all the females who do!

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  2. I really like your suggestion….

    “I think women need to Chameleon and better adapt to the environment. We need to project more confidence, speak louder, be more assertive, and act like leaders. And while doing this, not completely check our femininity at the door.”

    And I do think that’s possible.

    You’re right, men and women ARE different. And I think it’s possible to celebrate our differences and allow them to bring a wonderfulness to any business…..together!

    “My apologies to the guys…us girls needed needed a little visual pick-me-up.”

    No apologies needed….woot! woot! HA!

    Really enjoyed these past two posts, Tracy!

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  3. Posted by susan on March 10, 2011 at 2:04 pm

    Being a nurse, I’m in a traditional female gender role. There are more women doctors than ever before, and male nurses, but gender stereotyping still definitely occurs at hospitals — mostly by some patients who want man docotors and woman nurses.

    Suggestion: Make the kilt fashionable in America. Men in skirts would level out the equality a bit LOL.

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    • HAHAHA, but I’m not sure how I’d feel about looking at man legs all day. And, it might get a little, shall we say, distracting unless they all learned to cross their legs!

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  4. You got my vote for solution #1 – I second Ron’s woot woot!

    I agree with #3, EXCEPT, I would still argue, rather than simply adapting to the American workplace as is, women AND men need to work toegther to change the business culture to make it more family-friendly, for women and men alike.

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    • Okay, you can join Ron with job applicant screening duties. One woot and the guy’s disqualified from further consideration. Ten woots, he gets the job. YES, I agree with your exception to #3. Good point.

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  5. Posted by Kalli on March 13, 2011 at 6:21 pm

    i battle with sexism every day in my workplace. i just do my job and let my actions speak for themselves! boys watch out because i can do it all and do it better 😉

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