Almost everyone has them….things that you shhhhhh and don’t tell anyone about…secrets.
Do you have any? I do.
Earlier this week my family and I began the monumental task of cleaning out my mom’s belongings. Although she was sick for many years and in bed for the last two, we never moved her things…everything was left in place, exactly the way she left it.
If there were secrets lurking in her closet, her dressers, her hiding places…we were about to find them.
If someone looked though everything you owned…every pouch, pocket, bin, bag, drawer, folder, computer file, and box, what would surprise them? Would anything be shocking?
Would anything totally rock their world?
I realized a few things while cleaning out my mom’s closet. First and most important (and as Sydney wisely suggested on her blog), never keep something that you don’t want someone else to find. One day, everything will be found.
The item that rocked my world the most was a notebook that she kept under her nightstand. On the first page was a letter from me, to her, written on Mother’s Day in 1998. On the following pages were entries that she wrote to me…and that I had never seen before. I took the book home, opened it that same evening, and cried my eyes out as I read her words of praise, disappointment, and self-confession.
We haven’t found any dirty little secrets yet, and I hope we don’t. With my mom, the person she portrayed to others was who she really was. The things she “tucked away,” although maybe she never wanted to share them, are consistent with the women I knew.
Which reminds me…there are few things in my own house that should probably be tossed. Now…where did I put that….
If you have secrets, is it better to share them, or not?
…at least with one person who knows what to burn??
Be sure to check out “the un page,”at the top, where I’ll be posting updates about the 12 ways I’m beating the Feeling of UN this summer. Up next is #2, a date with Mr. Backbone, which is happening tonight.
Have a GREAT weekend!