How about if we start off today with a delicious slice of birthday cake…?
Tonight we celebrated my nephew’s 6th birthday party. It was a fun, light-hearted party. Aside from pure, innocent, 6-year-old happiness, the best parts were: 1) seeing my 89-year-old grandma wearing a paper Go Diego Go! birthday hat; and 2) the cake.
This was the first time that my family had gotten together since my mom’s funeral. It’s only been a little over a week and we are all still grieving. Condolence cards are still arriving…
….but the best card tonight was the one read by a six-year-old that said “Happy Birthday.”
The party was missing a wife, a mother, a grandmother, and a friend. Still, life goes on. There is no use sitting around feeling sorry for ourselves when there are six candles on a cake, waiting to be wished upon.
Grief does not have to be all-consuming. People experience grief and cope with it in all types of different ways…even in ways that involve cake and ice cream. There is no shame or guilt in feeling happiness during these periods of our lives.
Grief is the price that we pay for love. Just because we are grieving doesn’t mean that we should put a hold on loving each other and celebrating each others’ joys. Some days we may wake up in the morning, pull the covers back over our heads, and cry. We will want to be left alone. But then we will eventually get up…walk into the kitchen…make a cup of tea…see the left-over birthday cake on the Go Diego Go! paper plate…peel back the plastic wrap…and stick our fingers in the icing. After all, nobody’s looking.
Cake and Condolences…what a Combination for today’s inspiration by the Letter C.
Have you ever grieved? What are some of the things you did to move through it more easily? Did this post make you hungry for birthday cake?
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