Ending a relationship over the holidays is very difficult. But, when you’re not happy and believe deep in your heart that you will never be happy, breaking up is the right thing to do.
I took some time this past week to reflect on a close relationship that I’ve been in for about a year…
…and I decided that it needs to end.
Although deciding to break-up was a difficult decision, an even harder thing to decide is how to tell my soon-to-be Ex.
- Over the phone?
- By writing a letter?
- By asking a friend to break the news for me?
I know that sending a Dear John letter is very impersonal, but in this case, I think a letter is the right way to go.
I am writing this letter to say good-bye. We had some good times during our year together…and I will remember them fondly. But we argue too much, which hasn’t been good for the relationship. You were always testing me. I was always fighting back. You were always trying to keep me down. I always wanted to outshine you.
I realize that you may want to know why I’m breaking up with you. Without going into a lot of painful detail, I’ll just say that all of the classic reasons are in play.
1. You didn’t get along with my family. In fact, you caused us a lot of pain.
2. You were not good with money and your future financial stability didn’t look very promising.
3. You were always good about giving, but even better about taking away.
4. Our political and religious views were too different.
5. And lastly, you had a lot of passion and potential, but lacked the stamina to keep it up. And everyone knows that when there are long-term problems in that department, it’s time to call it quits.
Things started out so good, but the chemistry faded. The spark is gone. It’s time for both of us to move on and find happiness elsewhere. You were a good year, but we just weren’t meant to be together forever.
Please don’t contact me again. I’ve hired a matchmaker and already have a blind date lined up for Friday night. His name is 2011.
How will you remember 2010? Was it a good year for you?