This weekend Mr. Backbone and I went to a company holiday party, a party with friends, and decorated, decorated, decorated our own home for a family party we’ll be hosting next weekend. Stay tuned…there will be a party recap next week.
Today, let’s take part in the Self-Discovery, Word by Word series, which is being hosted this month by Katie at Health for the Whole Self. The concept is to select a single word and encourage meaningful self-reflection by focusing on the word.
This month’s word is Authenticity.
Before reading some posts from other bloggers on the word Authenticity, I never associated this word with people.
I would use it to describe food. Yum! This has to be authentic Mexican….
Or places. This town is so cool; it’s really authentic to its history.
Or things, like the crap people bring to Pawn Stars. Yes sir, that’s an authentic NASA negative…but I goddda make money on it, so I’ll give you 20 dollars cash and 20 bucks in pawn shop credit. Love that show.
Turning to people, I struggled with applying the word. It means: Real. True. Original. Pure. Genuine. Undisputed.
I thought…Am I real and true with others? Are others real and true with me? All the time? Or, just some of the time? If I’m selective about it, is there an art to revealing my authentic self?
I’m not so sure that I’ve ever been 100% real, true, and genuine with anyone, 100% of the time. It would mean that nearly every thought that entered my brain when interacting with someone would exit my mouth. I never do that. I always filter. I’m constantly filtering. Most of the time I filter because I don’t want to hurt peoples’ feelings. Or, I filter as a form of self-protection. To keep up a wall. To set a boundary.
Also, being as chameleon-like as I am, I don’t show all sides of my personality to everyone I meet. I’m never intentionally disingenuous, but if being authentic means always showing a complete and true, undisputed self…I fail the definition.
I think it comes down to this…. The key is for YOU to know the authentic YOU. Whether or not you chose to show your authenticity, and to who, and in what quantities…is a complete judgement call. Not doing so doesn’t mean you lack authenticity. So long as you’re being genuine, holding back just means you’re filtering. And filtering isn’t always a bad thing.
Lots of people let their different sides show, depending on the situation at hand. Even Santa. We all know his white beard and jolly HoHoHo, but what about…
When he goes to Ireland…
And the Ukraine…
He’s still Santa…right? Or, a form of Santa. But, he’s turned into someone that the people of other countries can relate to and understand. Does that mean that Santa isn’t authentic? I don’t think so.
Do you think that being genuine and being authentic are the same, or different? Do you filter, and if so, how much?
I am flying off into Business Land tomorrow, so there will be no post this Wednesday. I’ll be back with you on Friday. Have a great week!