My parents tell me that when I was a little girl, I was bossy. They’re right. I remember having strong little girl opinions and telling people what I thought they should do.
- We’re going to ride our bikes now. Go home and get your wheels.
- Let’s put on a talent show and charge the neighbors 5¢ admission.
- Tell your mom to make cookies so we can sell them at the lemonade stand.
- Dad. We’re playing Barbies. Move off the couch. It’s their house.
As far back as I can remember, I’ve been more of a leader than a follower. And if I am following, I will only do it willingly for someone I trust and believe is leading me in the right direction. At work, having leadership qualities helped me become co-owner of a company. At home, I get teased for not being able to “turn it off.” Sometimes my friends will call me out, tell me to pipe down, roll their eyes, or say I’m being a little too direct. I recognize this and make light of it by joking around, like when I wear this…
In the boss role at work, I try to lead by example. Earning respect and demanding respect are two very different things. Earning it shows humility and confidence. Earning it is the sign of an admirable leader. On the other hand, demanding respect shows arrogance. I like to think of myself as a respect-earner (E), not a respect-demander. I call it being Boss-E, not bossy. I’d be shocked if anyone’s ever called me an arrogant jerk jerkette. But, who knows….It could’ve happened behind my back.
Are you more of a leader or a follower? Have you ever had to work hard to earn someone’s respect?
Check back on Monday – I’ve got some cool things planned for the weekend and will be bursting to tell all about them!