My favorite time of year is when the sun is warm but the air is crisp. The leaves are starting to turn colors and it’s absolutely beautiful outside. Although there is still a little fog out there this morning, I can tell that it’s going to be one of those perfect weather days. If you’re having nice weather where you are today, get out there and enjoy it! Today won’t last forever ya know.
I received a few e-mails about Friday’s post, The Name Game. Many of you find it hard to remember names, too. Someone asked if I ever thought about why I can’t easily remember people’s names when I first meet them. I have a theory on this, and it relates to my People Pyramid.
My People Pyramid looks like this:
Associates, Advisors, Acquaintances
The higher a person is on my Pyramid, the better I know them, the better they know me, and the more I expect of the relationship. The lower a person is, the less I know about them, the less they know about me, and the greater chance there is that I won’t remember their name. That’s why name association games work for some people – because you attach meaning to a name – even if it’s with an apple.
Until I establish a meaningful connection with someone and relate them to my life, I can almost guarantee that I won’t remember their name. I have trouble remembering names of Hollywood celebrities for that same reason.
Unless you’re an immediate family member and were born into my Pyramid, climbing its steep sides is not always easy. A lot of new people I meet stay at Level A for a long time before I will sincerely call them Friend. I’ll explain the difference between Friend (who knows the real me) and Acquaintances, Advisors, and Associates (who only know small parts of me) in a later posts. Just know that, the people in my life are there for very important reasons, and I always try to remember that. I have a reminder of this along the walkway to my front door…
The most important point about the People Pyramid is that the higher someone is, the more honesty and loyalty I expect from them. Also, the deeper I can be hurt by them and the more joy they can bring to my life…because they are hurting the real me and taking joy in the real me, not just a small part of me. I expect a lot of honesty and loyalty from my true friends…and I try to give it back to them just the same.
Do you have a lot of friends, or just a few? Do you expect them to be honest and loyal all the time, or just some of the time?