“Hi Dress! It’s me, Tracy…remember me? Remember that one magical night we spent together?”
I should pay my dress a visit….it’s been years since we’ve seen each other.
So, what happens when a marriage doesn’t work out, what happens to all of the boxes with the see-thru lids holding silky, lacey, beaded contents of relationships gone south?
- Keep them?
- Burn them?
- Sell them on Craig’s List?
- Bury them in unmarked graves never to be seen again?
A change in relationship status is never easy, especially divorce. Keep in mind that your BACKBONE cannot be changed by a relationship. You will continue to be who you are regardless if you are single, partnered, or somewhere in between.
Reminders of old relationships can be painful. Especially the dress. If marriage repair is not an option, the divorce is done, and you are ready to move on, I say ditch the dress. Wait — Not so fast! — Don’t go running for your scissors and start making a Bride of Frankenstein costume for the next Halloween party! Try doing something positive, like giving the dress a second chance for someone in need.
My friend Amy did just that. She was a beautiful bride. And oh! The dress! The beautiful dress! She donated it to a church and it was worn by a stunning bride in her fairy-tale wedding. The generosity of this act brought a tear to many eyes. Way to go Amy!
A note from Amy
I donated my wedding dress to the church in hopes someone in need would benefit. It was bitter sweet, but I wanted some good to come from everything. My church had started a Latino ministry and so I took the dress out of the box, shed a tear, had it professionally pressed again, and dropped it off at the church’s front office a few months ago. They found a great home for it last week, and sent pictures to me of a beautiful young couple on their wedding day. I was overjoyed.
My brother happened to be with me when I opened the e-mail containing the photos. Sensing my emotions, he cracked a joke and called it the “Traveling Dress,”a pun taken from the movie “The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants.” That made me laugh, and I thought, he’s right! If this girl passes it on to another bride or maybe a 15 year-old for a quinceanera, well then, not only have we all gotten our money’s worth, but a special warmth and good will is passed on too. I thought that was awesome.