Truth. Truth is such a virtuous word, isn’t it? After all, everyone wants to hear the truth. Or, do they?
Sometimes I do. If there was a piece of Charmin stuck to my shoe, I’d want someone to tell me the truth. Or, if there was parsley in my teeth. Or, if I accidentally dropped a few Benjamins out of my wallet.
Other times, I’d rather that people kept the truth (or their perception of the truth) to themselves…unless I ask…or unless it’s totally positive…or unless it’s given as constructive criticism with a tactful and respectful delivery.
A lot of times people tell me to stop talking and listen…to be more contemplative…and less direct with my choice of words. I know they’re right… it’s the truth…and I’m working on being a better listener.
With the wrong delivery, or inappropriate timing, or the lack of discretion when speaking the almighty truth, the words free-flowing out of your mouth can be ugly. Sometimes the truth can hurt. Sometimes it can scar. Sometimes it does not need to be said out loud.
By now, you’re probably wondering how former supermodel Tyra Banks fits into this topic. I’m sure that Tyra never gets tired of people speaking the truth about her beauty and success. But, she probably didn’t like reading all of the media reports last year about her weight gain…even though it was the truth.
Take it from Tyra
This reminds me of something that Tyra said about THE TRUTH on the spring 2011 cycle of her reality TV show, America’s Next Top Model. I’ve never forgotten her words.
Two of the contestants were arguing. Girl #1 said that Girl #2 was shallow and undeserving of winning a spot to model in a PSA campaign. It was true…the girl seemed shallow. But, was announcing it to the world on national TV in full attack mode the right thing to do? I’m not so sure, and Tyra agreed. Said with confidence and poise, Tyra made an excellent point about how telling the truth can be outright rude. She said,
A lot of young girls think that the opposite of fake is rudeness. And just as ugly as fake is, so is saying whatever is on your mind just because it’s the truth.
- Tyra Banks, 2011
I agree with Tyra.
Do you think the truth should always be told?